Struggling with your confidence?
You’re not alone. We all strive to have more self-confidence. However, it can be difficult to come by at times. We often hold ourselves to unreasonably high standards, and this can have a negative impact on our self-esteem.
However, if you can learn how to leverage and strengthen your self-confidence you can generate some excellent outcomes.
For instance, self-confidence leads to:
- Healthier relationships. Confidence doesn’t just influence how you feel about yourself, it also helps you to understand and appreciate others better too.
- Better performance. Rather than constantly worrying you’re not good enough, you can devote your energy to reaching your goals.
- Resilience. When you’re confident you’re more likely to open yourself up to new opportunities. At the same time, you’re also less likely to take a massive hit if something doesn’t go according to plan.
Here are some quick ways to improve your self-confidence.
Avoid comparing yourself to others
The reality is envy does have a direct impact on how you feel about yourself.
The most important thing you can do to strengthen your self-confidence is to avoid comparing yourself to others. When you’re constantly comparing how you look, your job, your home, and other aspects of your life to what other people have, it’s much harder to be confident in yourself.
Researchers have discovered that people who compare themselves to others are more likely to feel envy, and envy impacts how these people feel about themselves. If you’re feeling envious of someone else’s life, remember that the image you see of that person might not be as real as it seems.
Look after your physical health
It’s difficult to feel good about yourself when you don’t feel good. Practising good self-care and looking after your body means that you’ll be in a healthier position to look after yourself – mind, body, and spirit.
Start by looking at your current self-care routine. Where does it most need improvement?
For instance, if you’re currently eating a lot of fast food to deal with long hours at work, now might be the time to start thinking about how you can add more unprocessed foods like fruits and vegetables to your diet.
If you spend a lot of time sitting in front of a computer at work, then you’re going to need to start getting some exercise into your routine, so you can feel your best.
It’s not just diet and exercise that make a difference, though. Think about how well you sleep. If you’re not getting the right amount of sleep, you’ll struggle to feel strong enough to handle the everyday challenges you have to face.
Be kinder to yourself
We could all do with a little more self-compassion these days.
It’s easy to be kind to others when you see someone struggling, but if you’re not being kind to yourself, your confidence will suffer.
Ultimately no matter how much of a perfectionist you consider yourself to be, it’s never a good idea to beat yourself up when you don’t achieve the goals you aimed for, or you feel like you’ve failed at something.
The reality is that we all make mistakes and being kinder to yourself when you do will make you feel a lot better than wallowing in the issue.
Look at mistakes as opportunities to learn and grow, and forgive yourself for not always getting things right the first time around. Trust that you will do better the next time you try to accomplish your goals.
If you’re having a hard time with self-compassion imagine how you would talk to someone else who had experienced the same problem as you. How harsh would you be?
Take advantage of positive self-talk
Talking to yourself isn’t the bad sign of poor mental health it used to be. Using optimistic self-talk can help you to overcome self-doubt, practise compassion, and even improve your self-esteem on a massive scale.
Many people get into the habit of telling themselves so often that they can’t do something, they start to believe it.
With that in mind, maybe it’s time to start thinking about how you can protect yourself with some more positive self-talk. It all starts with challenging those common negative phrases. Instead of telling yourself that you can’t do something, try telling yourself that you can.
Instead of saying you can’t do anything right, tell yourself you’re going to find a way to perform better the next time you tackle a similar challenge.
Creating self-confidence isn’t always easy, but the more time you devote to practising these skills, the more you’ll find your self-esteem beginning to grow. Eventually, you may even be confident enough to start facing your fears head-on, and that will strengthen your confidence even more.