Your beliefs about yourself and your life have more power over your existence that you can imagine. Personal ideas and values you’ve held for a long time can block the way toward a life you desire. Identify your unhelpful negative beliefs and replace them with positive ones.
Examine some beliefs that may be hampering you in your efforts to live the good life:
- “I should let go of my dreams because there’s no way I can achieve them.” A couple of unhelpful things happen when you think this way. First, it seems you may feel undeserving of the dreams you have and are, therefore, sabotaging yourself. Second, you’re likely not doing anything to move closer to how you want to live.
- One way to alter this belief is to think about how to follow your dreams. Make a list of the steps required to achieve the life you want. Look at them as stair steps. Then, begin ‘climbing’ those steps towards your future, one by one.
- Your new belief might sound something like, “I’m following my dreams starting today and I will celebrate each step I achieve along the way.”
- “I can’t ask for what I want, because I’ll only be told ‘no’.” This belief indicates you feel less important than others. You see your wants and needs as not relevant to others. Living with this belief means you likely keep your true feelings under wraps and simply go along to get along with others. There’ll be no rocking the boat from you.
- The fact is your feelings are equally as valuable as everyone else’s. Try changing this belief to, “I am important and how I feel matters to me. I can ask for what I want. Others may disagree, but I can handle it.”
- When you state your wants or needs tactfully and honestly without anger, those close to you will probably listen well and respond to them.
- However, if they have a negative response, remind yourself that you have no control over the feelings of others.
- You do have control over your own feelings and actions. Therefore, ask for what you want. Recognize that you can listen to others’ responses, but you’re not responsible for how they feel.
- “I’m not going to trust anyone again.” This belief may stem from a time in your past when someone you trusted hurt you.
- Perhaps, when you were a youngster, your parents were unsupportive or tough on you. Or in a prior close relationship you felt betrayed, or that your feelings were minimized. Whatever the case, it sounds like you’re afraid to trust and you’re trying to protect yourself from further emotional hurt.
- Change this belief by giving yourself permission to trust. If you pledge not to trust again, it likely means you’ll not have another loving relationship.
- Recognize that you probably learned something positive from the prior relationship. You’ve grown and your ideas about what you want are clearer now.
- You can adopt a belief something like, “In order to have a relationship, I must invest in it. It may be scary at first, but I can do it.”
- “I don’t make enough money to live a financially secure life.” This belief puts a heavy cloak over your efforts to be happy. When you think this way, you fail to see what you can do to save for your future. Your emotional health is intimately connected to how you feel about your financial life.
- Open the door to a more secure financial and emotional life by adjusting your belief to, “I have control over my finances and I can save X dollars per week.”
- When you believe you can live within or below your financial means and still save, you’ll discover you can enjoy your life.
Perform a thorough self-examination of your major beliefs and values. What do you think about yourself? Are your thoughts and beliefs preventing you from achieving a healthy relationship, establishing financial security, or living the dream life you yearn for? Banish your limiting beliefs forever, starting now.